Are you acting out of character?
Are you yelling at your children?
Are you screaming at your soon-to-be ex?
Are you bad-mouthing your relatives?
Are you short-tempered with your co-workers?
Are you being sarcastic and mean to the people around you?
If you find yourself doing some of the above, you may need to dig deep and see how anger, frustration and sadness are manifesting in your presence and actions.
Instead of getting caught up in the drama and anger of divorce, take a second to pause. It is possible for you to regroup and change your way of thinking. To begin the emotional healing process by choosing your Best Self.
If your soon-to-be ex is pushing your buttons, knowing your triggers may be a good place to start. We all get triggered from time to time. And in divorce, there may be trigger minefields all over the place.
Often when our buttons are pushed, our reptilian brain kicks in and we engage in a reactive state...to FIGHT rather than a responsive state.
Identifying your triggers and understanding how they show up for you in your emotional process is the first step to learning how to manage them.
At The Split Society, learning how to emotionally manage these triggers can be the difference between moving closer to a conflict resolution process rather than an adversarial one.
You ARE able to change the negative to the positive.